What's A-Parent

Whitney Port's Tearful Discussion About Breastfeeding Is One All Women Need To Hear

"I just don't know if it's something that is gonna get better or not, so that's why I feel anxious about it."

What's A-Parent is a series highlighting those who get real about the hardships that come with raising kids. These often untold stories help show parents they are not alone in their struggle, and are doing an amazing job.

In her YouTube series "I Love My Baby But...," new mom Whitney Port breaks down all the realities of pregnancy and post-pregnancy with the hopes that other mothers and mommies-to-be can relate to.

In her first episode ("Chapter 1"), Port introduced her blog and spoke honestly about the things she hated about being pregnant. She added in the description

"Please do not get alarmed by the title! I know 'hate' is a strong word but I think in that very moment, that was how I was feeling and so we stuck with it! As the pregnancy progresses and my symptoms subside, I hope that's not how I will feel anymore! I already love our baby to pieces but feeling yucky all the time is a 'hate-able' thing! This is also not an advice blog, but hopefully, some of you out there can relate to what I'm going through or are just curious to follow my journey ... Can't wait to share with all of you and connect to expecting Moms, any women that are thinking about becoming Moms, and maybe even some Dads going through similar things..." 

Eighteen chapters later, and Port — who has since given birth to a baby boy — is now speaking about the challenges of breastfeeding and the pain that comes along with it.


In "I Love My Baby But, Breastfeeding," Port talks about starting breastfeeding; after 24 to 48 hours, she found it incredibly painful: 

"And we came home, and I just hit a breaking point and said, 'I can't do this.' It feels like someone is slicing my nipples with glass," Port says on camera. 

Port continues to tell her story, but when asked to describe how this experience has made her feel as a mother, Port breaks down, wiping away tears from her eyes. 

"I obviously want to breastfeed ... that's what people say is the best bonding experience ... I've been getting pressure from older people, that want me to try it and continue to try it, and I did," Port says. "I just don't know if it's something that is gonna get better or not, so that's why I feel anxious about it."

Later, Port adds that some people have tried reminding her not to put so much pressure on herself. Moreover, she knows other people go through similar experiences, but the pressures to not give up are still there. 

And when asked what advice she'd give others who are going through similar experiences, she says she would tell people not to listen to what other people are saying, and to go with what's in their heart. 

"And that's what I really should be doing."

Port isn't the first to speak out about breastfeeding. August is National Breastfeeding Awareness Month, and this month, mom Angela Burzo posted a crying selfie to show the struggles of breastfeeding. "That is not my reality, right now that is. This is real and as much as I want to stay strong and be the soldier I feel I can be, I cannot hide the struggle that is BREASTFEEDING." 

Since sharing her video, Port's emotions have been met with loads of positive feedback:

"I wish I could like this a billion times! Everyone said breastfeeding comes natural but it didn't for me ... I felt like a failure, like I was doing something wrong ... I finally learned to NOT allow myself to feel like a failure," one mother commented on YouTube. "A FED baby is a happy baby. Whether you are giving formula, pumping or breast feeding YOU are doing what's RIGHT for YOUR baby. Don't be hard on yourself. As mom's we put so much guilt on ourselves. Try to have patience with yourself no matter what you try to do."

"Love you @whitneyeveport. You're doing a great job and thank you for sharing because I went through the exact same thing and no one ever speaks out about this stuff," another commented on Instagram

Breastfeeding certainly isn't easy — and it isn't always the best option — for every mom, and we need to start reminding women that that is OK. If we can help relinquish the pressures moms feel, hopefully, they will feel comfortable listening to their hearts and choosing whatever method works best for them.

Check out Port's full video below:


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