What's A-Parent

Hilary Duff Reads This Poem To Cope With Missing Her Son. She Hopes It'll Help Other Working Parents, Too.

"Tears started falling down my face at the last four lines and still do when I read it."

What's A-Parent is a series highlighting those who get real about the hardships that come with raising kids. These often untold stories help show parents they are not alone in their struggle, and are doing an amazing job.

For Hilary Duff, spending days on set means being away from her 5-year-old son, Luca, for long periods of time. And for working mothers and fathers all around the world, being away from a young son or daughter can be emotionally taxing. 

In a recent Instagram post, Duff opens up about these circumstances, adding that her co-star, Peter Herman, shared with her a poem by Rachel Zucker to help her cope. 

"This beautiful poem was given to me from the wonderful Peter Herman, who plays Charles on [Younger]. I have to spend many days, sometimes weeks, away from Luca when shooting, and he gave me this poem when I was desperate to see and hold my boy. Tears started falling down my face at the last four lines and still do when I read it," Duff captions on the post.

The poem, titled "Hours Days Years Unmoor Their Orbits," reads, in part:

"I don't expect you to remember or / understand the many ways I've kept you / alive or the life my love for you / has made me live." 


"Motherhood is the greatest gift I have ever received," Duff continues in her post. "Everyday a new adventure or hurdle. My heart has grown bigger than I can explain. I think every mother or parent will find this poem as moving as I do." 

Since sharing, Duff's post has garnered positive comments from other mothers and fans. 

"I completely understand; my baby boy is 17 [and-a-half] months, and I hate being away from him 8-9 hours a day, but love being with him [at] home at night and on [the] weekends. He is my first, and I'm cherishing every moment with him," one person writes. 

"You're a great mother. I'm sure he understands and appreciates your hard work. If it's not understandable yet for him at his age, I'm sure when he gets older he will, and he'll appreciate your hard work," another adds. 

According to the U.S. Department of Labor, 70 percent of mothers with children under 18 work, with over 75 percent employed full-time. They are the primary or sole earners for 40 percent of households.

And while women can be made to feel bad about their decision to spend time away from their families, we hope that some working parents find comfort in this poem, Duff's words, and the knowledge that they are doing their best. 

Check out Duff's full post above.

(H/T: Hello Giggles)


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