Pop Culture Intervention

Paparazzi Stalk Them, So Why Do Female Celebs Say ‘Sorry’ For Asking Them To Stop?

Something all women can take to heart.

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The least fun thing about being a celebrity has to be dealing with paparazzi. Being a household name in this day and age means saying "see ya" to whatever privacy you had before, but it doesn't mean you aren't allowed to have boundaries. So why is it that celebrities, specifically female ones, apologize to paparazzi when those boundaries are crossed?


Over the weekend, Hilary Duff faced that exact thing when she confronted a paparazzo who had been following her all day.

"This is not ok. I am 9 months pregnant. When people say that's what you get for signing up to be a celebrity it honestly makes me sick," Duff wrote in the caption. "This is every day of every month and simply not ok. If a non 'celeb' (I'm sorry to use that word) was dealing with this the law would be involved."

We don't actually see Duff in the video but we hear the Younger star ask the paparazzo to stop "hunting" her and, when he fires back that he lost an entire morning because he didn't get any photos, she fires back: "It's not my fault."

It's important to take note of what Duff said, but more important to take note of wasn't said. A lot of times women feel the need to apologize or say "sorry" for the betterment of men — who refuse to do this, by the way — to not think they're too difficult to deal with. It's something that needs to stop. Female celebrities have encouraged women to stop apologizing, politicians have refused to say "sorry" in important instances, and even Barbie has called out this problematic habit.

Just look at an instance that happened a few months ago when Selena Gomez was confronted by paparazzi and ended up apologizing to them when it was they who were overstepping boundaries.

"Do you guys just mind if I have the rest of the day? You're kind of scaring me," Gomez told them. After a photographer — a woman in this instance — said there were other guys there and that it's "competitive," Gomez apologized by saying, "OK, sorry" in a meek voice.

Another instance from a few years back saw Demi Lovato apologize to fans for not spending time with them thanks to some negative paparazzi interactions. While she did berate the photogs for being disrespectful, it is her saying "sorry" to fans that puts herself at fault for circumstances beyond her control when she didn't have to.

Just last year we saw the 20th anniversary of Princess Diana's tragic death, a watershed moment that the institution of the paparazzi was largely blamed for. Even to this day, with instances such as Sia selling a nude photo before gossip sites go ahold of it, shows just how pervasive and invasive the paparazzi is in the lives of famous people. 

Sure, there are those who use the paparazzi to depict themselves a certain way to the public, but, for the most part, famous people are just trying to live their lives just like the rest of us. For this fact, celebrities — especially female ones — do not owe anyone an apology, and should feel free to use "sorry" for occasions which truly deserve it.


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