LGBTQ+ Pride Month

Do LGBTQ People Make Good Parents? This Chart Will Tell You.

To celebrate LGBTQ Pride Month, we're challenging assumptions with a seemingly simple question.

No two parents are alike — even (or perhaps especially) when they're raising the same child. It's no secret that parenting styles and abilities differ from person to person because they're often based on individual childhood experiences. 

It should go without saying that anyone has the potential to be an amazing parent, but too often, people of certain communities are considered inherently less capable than others. Case in point: people in the LGBTQ community. Historically, it's been more difficult for LGBTQ parents to adopt children, have both parents' names on a birth certificate, and receive full family rights than straight parents. Though some progress has been made to change discriminatory laws and practices, there is still much work that needs to be done. 

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That's why we decided to challenge negative stereotypes of LGBTQ people's parenting ability by asking a seemingly simple question: "Do LGBTQ people make good parents?" It's OK if you can't answer it immediately, because this chart will tell you.

When it comes down to it, your parenting ability has almost nothing to do with your gender identity or sexual orientation. Anyone who loves, supports, and does everything they can to ensure their child is happy and healthy is a good parent.

That's why we wanted to challenge the notion that either parent had to take on a traditional "mom" or "dad" role. Many people wonder if two women are able to provide a strong male role model for their child, and vice versa for two men. Rachel Epstein, founder of the LGBTQ Parenting Network, has some pretty good answers. "We try to get people to look at some of the deeply embedded assumptions that we have about gender and the ways that those ideas really presume that just because of what you have between your legs, that you are biologically male, that you provide certain kinds of things to children and vice versa," she told CP24. "It really also ignores the diversity that exists amongst men and women. Not all men like to rough house and teach their children how to use power tools. Some women do."

Not only does diversity exist among men and women, but — we've said it before and we'll say it again — a wonderful amount of diversity exists among parents. So when we ask "Does being LGBTQ affect the way they love and support their child?" what we mean is that a person's experience in a marginalized community, such as the LGBTQ one, may help them be more empathetic when their child faces any kind of adversity. Or it could influence the way they teach their kids about tolerance and acceptance. That doesn't mean a straight parent can't do that as well. The absolutely can — they just might take different paths to reach the same parenting solution.

As any mom or dad will tell you, parenthood is a journey — full of detours, speed bumps, and the occasional wrong turn. Any parent is capable of making a mistake, and every parent does. That's what makes the experience so universal and human. We may not all want to be parents, but we should all have the right to make that choice. And if you do decide to raise a child, you deserve to know you can — imperfectly, differently, beautifully

Cover image via  Monkey Business Images I Shutterstock

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