LGBTQ+ Pride Month

This Facebook Post Encourages People Not To Judge 'Straight Couples' At Pride

"Who are we if we're assuming folks' gender and/or sexuality by LOOKING at them?"

With celebrations kicking off for Pride Month 2018, a social media user is bringing up an important point about keeping our assumptions and thoughts in check before judging any of the other attendees. 

AC Dumlao, who runs the Call Me They Twitter and Facebook, posted a Twitter thread on June 2 about things to consider when seeing a straight-presenting couple or person at pride celebrations. 

They explained to Allure that they came up with the idea for the list because there are commonly "straight people don't belong at pride" memes during Pride Month. "These comments are usually in jest but are rooted in biases that are dangerous to the community and to the purpose of Pride as an inclusive celebration," Dumlao said. "I realized that these are biases that I once shared and in some ways am still working on."


First and foremost, the tweets highlight why we should reserve our judgment and not make assumptions about someone's sexuality and/or gender identity by looking at them. The list also highlights the fact that there are many reasons heterosexual identifying people may be attending Pride, be it to show support as allies, to accompany minors, etc.  

The tweets generated a lot of discussion and were liked and retweeted thousands of times. After the response, Dumlao expanded the list on Facebook.

In the comments, Dumlao makes it clear that the lists from Twitter and Facebook aren't "all-encompassing" and thanks commenters who had added their suggestions and spoken out about their experiences at Pride.

Dumalo encourages all Pride attendees to stop focusing on gatekeeping and to instead focus on those who are in need of support, such as the Black, Brown, and Indigenous trans folks, whose life expectancy is 35 years old, and have statistically higher rates of being murdered.

Because all advocacy, in whatever form, is important as we are still a long way off from total equality and understanding, which is why straight allies are so important. There are plenty examples of such allies who are helping to push the cause forward, such as Dutch lawmakers Alexander Pechtold and Wouter Koolmees, who made a strong statement of support by walking to work hand in hand, after an attack on a gay couple in the Netherlands in April 2017. Annie Lennox is an advocate for LGBTQ+ rights who founded the SING campaign in 2007 to raise funds and awareness to help prevent the spread of HIV in South Africa. Prince William is another celebrity who has been recognized as a straight ally, winning The British LGBTQ Award for "Straight Ally of the Year" 2017.  He made history when he became the first member of the British royal family to appear on the cover of Attitude and recently pledged his support for LGBTQ+ rights on Commonwealth Day. 

Of course, the list goes on and on, and it just goes to show that if people across the gender and sexual orientation spectrum can all work together, we will all be better for it in the end. 

Cover image via  Nebojsa Markovic I Shutterstock 


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