Ask Your Father

You’re Doing Good, Dad

Here are a few reasons that you’re doing a great job as a father.

Looking for dad-focused parenting stories? You're not alone. Ask Your Father is A Plus's space for fresh perspectives on family life and some good old-fashioned fatherly advice. Because dads deserve the chance to spill the tea — or the milk — too.

I'm feeling guilty as I close the door to my son's room.

It's the third time I've had to respond to him after he was supposed to go to bed. I feel like I was too harsh this time. How else was I to make it clear that this really was the last time I was coming up here to see him? Was I not firm enough the first two times?

Clearly not, as he called me back.


I let go of the door knob and walk away wondering if I'm more monster than dad.

Don't get down on yourself, we've all been there!

Here are a few reasons that you're doing a great job as a father.

1. You care.

This may seem like an obvious trait as a father, but not everyone is fortunate enough to have a caring parent in their lives. How do I know you're a caring father?

2. You’re reading this article.

You show personal interest in your children, which is a quality men have not always had. As you continue to care about children's lives, you'll strengthen them into well-rounded adults.

3. You say, “I love you.”

As it is with families we most often express our love without saying a word. You go to work, pick up the house and bathe the little humans in your home – those are ways to say "I love you." The verbal affirmation of love means the world to a developing child. Hearing it is very important to understanding and trust building. So keep on showing it and saying it.

4. You protect your family.

You are your family's protector. It's on you to keep your family safe. You protect them everyday when you buckle them into their carseat, when you teach them how to drive and even when you tell your teenager that they can't go to the most important party of her life. Not all protection is deadbolts and alarms.

5. You are a leader.

In the big moments in your children's lives, you've stepped in with wisdom and compassion. That's because you are a father and a leader. You lead by knowing when to hug, when to listen and when to discipline. You lead by example, showing your children what a real man looks like. Every day you are setting the example of what a mature father, husband, brother, employee and friend looks like.

Don't beat yourself up over one mistake made. Embrace your family and be thankful for all the things you've done right. Don't stop dad; you're doing just fine.

This story originally appeared on The Dad NetworkThe Dad Network; one of the UK's fastest growing network of dads. The Dad Network is not only a blog but an online hub offering support, encouragement and networking opportunities for dads across the globe. 

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