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When A Girl With Alopecia Says She Doesn't Love Herself, Her Dad Shaves His Head To Prove She Should

"It's just hair, kiddo. It doesn't matter."

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When one father heard his daughter say that she didn't love herself because of her alopecia, he decided to take matters into his own hands and prove to her that she is beautiful — and loved — no matter what. 

"I am going to share one of the many reasons why I am so in love with my husband," Chelsea Sylvaria writes on the Love What Matters Facebook page. Chelsea then explains how her daughter, Riley, admitted she didn't love herself. 

"I was a bit taken aback and said, 'What do you mean you don't love yourself?' To which she uttered my worst fear, 'I don't love myself because I don't have hair," Chelsea continues,adding that she has alopecia. 

"Fast forward to later that night when we got home. [My husband] Dave wanted to talk to her about what she had said ... this was the result." 

Attached to the post is a video of Dave and Riley talking. In it, Dave asks her why she feels bad about herself, and Riley is quiet. 

"How come you say things like that?" he asks her. "You shouldn't say things like that, kiddo. You're a very special girl. Do you know that? Do you know how special you are? ... Hair doesn't matter. I know you would like to have hair ... but I love you the same no matter what. And so does Mommy. And so does everybody else."

Finally, Dave asks Riley if she wants him to shave his head. She nods, smiling, and without hesitation, the two head to the bathroom and shave Dave's head, together. 

"It's just hair, kiddo. It doesn't matter," he tells her again.

"We want her to know it's OK to sometimes get upset, but that she is strong and beautiful no matter what!" Chelsea adds in the post. 

Since sharing, others have written kind words to Riley on Facebook. One person shares that they too will be shaving their head.

"Riley is PERFECT just the way she is!! I'm shaving my head in about 10 minutes in her honor ... I'm going to call the haircut 'The Riley,'" one person writes. 

"No hair, don't care. My daughter and I periodically shave our hair off because we love the feel of no hair. Being shaved is awesome!" another adds. 


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