Woman Diagnosed With Breast Cancer 6 Months Into A New Relationship Finds Sweet Way To Celebrate Anniversary

"While everyone else was walking on eggshells around me, he continued to treat me exactly the same."

The first several months of a new relationship are often thought of as the "honeymoon phase." It's when you both agree on basically everything, rarely ever argue, and can't keep your hands off of each other. Things feel easy and exciting. 

But sometimes, life gets in the way of that honeymoon phase and causes a couple to have to deal with something really tough much sooner than expected. One woman shared such an experience with The Way We Met, a site dedicated to sharing people's real-life love stories with the world

"I was diagnosed with breast cancer on my and Danny's six month anniversary," Annik Spencer wrote for the site


Annik and Danny first met through a mutual friend at a bar in New York City and hit it off. Amongst other things, they discovered they grew up just 20 minutes away from each other in New England. 

"To break the ice, he showed me his Eagle Scout card and jokingly asked me if I was impressed. I was instantly attracted to his sense of humor," she continued. "The first few months of our relationship were indescribable. We spent a lot of time together exploring the city, bar hopping on the Lower East Side, and staying up all hours of the night talking." 

But then they hit the six month mark of their relationship and Annik was diagnosed with breast cancer at just 23 years old. 

"I lost my mother to breast cancer when I was 4 years old, so it truly was a living nightmare," she wrote. "The day I was diagnosed, I texted Danny, whose office was only a few blocks from the radiologists office, and asked him to come meet me. I told him something was very wrong. He found me completely shocked, standing on the sidewalk in the pouring rain." 

Having met Danny for the first time just months before, she couldn't have known what a huge part of her recovery he would be. He ended up being the kind of boyfriend who stuck by her through countless doctor's appointments, a double mastectomy, and multiple rounds of chemotherapy. 

"For the next six months, he was my rock," Annik wrote. "While everyone else was walking on eggshells around me, he continued to treat me exactly the same — always making me laugh with his sarcastic comments and jokes just as he had before I got sick. It really helped having that sense of normalcy in my life. Danny is so strong and has an amazing way of controlling his emotions, so when everyone else in my life was freaking out, he was not."

And he wasn't just there for her — he was also around to help her family through this difficult experience. "He was such an amazing support to my family," she wrote. "Making small talk with them in waiting rooms for hours when they were stressed out and upset. He even bought me a new pair of running shoes in my favorite color purple when I was cleared to work out again." 

Years later, Danny and Annik are still together — and they've found a special way to commemorate the day of her diagnosis. They celebrate their life together on the anniversary every year. 

"Now every year on my date of diagnosis, we both take work off and spend the day together walking around NYC and doing things we love," Annik wrote. "It's one of my favorite days of the year despite the fact that it's connected to something that was so traumatic. When you survive cancer, you learn to celebrate every moment you have with the people you love."

With Breast Cancer Awareness Month coming up in October, Annik's story is a solid reminder of what it means to be an excellent support system for someone struggling with the disease. 


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