Woman Defends Her $130 Engagement Ring After A Jeweler Unknowingly Insulted Her

"My husband was so afraid of me not wanting him because he couldn't afford a piece of jewelry."

The size — and the price — of an engagement ring isn't what matters. It's what it represents. 

And one woman named Ariel Desiree McRae is reminding us all that that symbol of love and commitment can be anything from a $130 ring set, to a 25 cent Gumball machine ring, to a pear-shaped diamond mounted in white gold

In a post shared to the Love What Matters Facebook page, the Tennessee woman voiced the ridiculous pressure we put on a piece of jewelry. Although she and her husband Quinn have to scrape by to pay bills and purchase groceries, the pair couldn't wait to get married. Quinn saved up enough money to purchase two matching rings for McRae in sterling silver and cubic zirconia. The couple went to jewelry store Pandora to buy the rings together. 

"While we were purchasing my rings however, another lady that was working there came over to help the lady selling them to us. She said, 'Y'all can you believe that some men get these as engagement rings? How pathetic.' When she said that I watched my now husband's face fall. He already felt bad because he couldn't afford the pear-shaped set that so obviously had my heart and covered my Pinterest page," McRae wrote. "He was so upset at the idea of not making me happy enough and of me not wanting to marry him because my rings didn't cost enough money or weren't flashy enough."


Instead of telling the unsuspecting jeweler that her words were offensive, McRae brushed it off. "It isn't the ring that matters, it is the love that goes into buying one that is," she told her. McRae also reassured her now husband that she absolutely loved the rings, and, more importantly, the person she's committed to by wearing them. They bought them and left the store.

"Y'all I would have gotten married to this man if it had been a 25¢ gum ball machine ring," she wrote. "When did our nation fall so far to think the only way a man can truly love a woman is if he buys her $3,000+ jewelry and makes a public decree of his affection with said flashy ring? Sure they are nice, sure the sentiment is wonderful and I'm not trying to cut down any of your experiences, but when did it come to all that? Why do material possessions equate love??" 

"My husband was so afraid of me not wanting him because he couldn't afford a piece of jewelry. He was afraid that the love I have for him would pale because he couldn't afford the wedding set I wanted. The world has made it this way and it is so sad."

In the end, McRae knew what mattered most was that she had found the person she wanted to spend the rest of her life with and the pair got married with the $130 ring set in a court house.

The post has over 80,000 shares on Facebook and is filled with commenters sharing personal stories and photos of their own modest engagement rings. Here are some of our favorites:

"I have the same band and wouldn't trade it for the world! My husband means everything to me and the last thing I had on my mind when deciding I wanted him forever was jewellery [sic] (my people don't traditionally wear rings) but he insisted. He and I picked this out together 3 days before the wedding and I've gotten so many compliments on it. I like it, but I like him more ðŸ˜˜  congratulations on the new marriage, keep loving each other."

"Love this story, made me think back about 43 years ago, I had no money to speak of, but the prettiest girl friend in the world. She stayed with me even though, I was a lucky man. We dated for 2 years and tied the knot, lived in her mom's house for a year and moved out shortly afterwards. Our rings matched our budget but not our love, and I think she still likes me!"

"When my husband and I were dating I told him he could propose with a bubblegum wrapper twisted up like a ring and I would still say yes. That was more than 21 years ago. Guess what sits in a ring box in our lock box?" 

"My first set was pricey and it ended up stolen ðŸ˜°my husband offered to replace it but I look back and can't believe I let him spend that much on a ring. I just got these made for $25."

Hopefully, McRae's post can remind people that the value of a relationship doesn't have to be represented by something material.


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