Why You Should Think Twice About Judging The New Mom At Work

"I’m very lucky to work in a workplace now that gets it. But in previous roles, I’ve felt the eye rolls and the guilt."

You know the new mum at work? (Insert eye roll) The one that is leaving early because daycare has called ... again. The mum that only talks about her kids in the lunchroom. That mum who is forever taking days off. And the one, that has a shorter working week and gets an extra day off? 

Don't judge. 

Let me assure you that they are on edge at work, hoping that daycare won't call and their heart drops when the phone rings. They don't want to leave again. They know how it looks. And if they leave, it's because they have nobody else to cover them.

And when the kids come along, life gets pretty busy. They are consumed with looking after the little one and won't have much to talk about, other than them. 

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And when the kids come along, life gets pretty busy. They are consumed with looking after the little one and won't have much to talk about, other than them. 

Courtesy of Adele Barbaro

At 3 a.m., when they are rocking a baby with yet another illness they are dreading that they can't go to work the next day, again. They are sick of missing work and do not want to fall behind.

And on their "day off"? Well, this is what it often looks like. This is what they are up to when they are not at work. There's no coffee with friends or shopping sprees, beach trips or salon visits. It's being rundown with hairy legs, mum buns, and boogie filled snuggles. It's selfless and can be bloody relentless. 

I'm very lucky to work in a workplace now that gets it. But in previous roles, I've felt the eye rolls and the guilt.

Know that the new mum is finding her feet. The missed days at work are short-lived. And behind the dark eyes is the same women that were first hired .... and she will be back. But she just needs a little understanding and a knowing smile. 

This story originally appeared on Adele Barbaro's Facebook page. After struggling with infertility but finally falling pregnant with the help of IVF, Adele had son Harvey in 2015. As a new mum, she found that social media portrayed an unrealistic insight into motherhood and so created her blog, The Real Mumma. A full time, working mum from Melbourne, Adele tells it how it is with a refreshing and honest account of her life with husband Paul, son Harvey and little Chloe who ironically, came along as a complete surprise. Her followers love her for her frank and relatable blog posts on all things "parenting." You can follow her on Facebook and Instagram

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