Here Are The Things That No One Wants To Tell Fat Girls, But Should

They're human, too.

Jes. M. Baker is no stranger to being vocal about body image and fat shaming. She's challenged company CEOs and orchestrated body-positive photo shoots, and now she's written a book: Things No One Will Tell Fat Girls

But what really is catching our eye is the book's trailer, for which Baker conceived the idea a few months ago. It shows the essence of what her book is about — fat girls can do things:

"I, in the end, took a step back and ask myself: what was the ultimate thing that no one tells fat girls? My answer was: that they CAN. Oh, they can!" she told A Plus in an email. 


"They can find love, they can win Emmys, they can whitewater raft, they can have healthy pregnancies, they can ride roller coasters, they can break fashion rules, they can be professional dancers, they can be rock stars, they can have amazing sex, they can, they can, they CAN. And I see it every day. And the best part of this message is that it applies to all bodies."

And the trailer for the book shows just that. 

Though it doesn't take a rocket scientist to know that people with different body types are humans that can in fact engage in regular activities like everyone else, assuming they can't is just another way to shame them for having the body that they do. Take love for instance. There's a notion that fat people need to fit the socially acceptable body type for anyone to love them, but that simply isn't true. 

"The biggest realization for me was that I could find uncompromising love in a partner," she told A Plus. "For some this may seem silly or irrelevant (because self-love is the ultimate), but when you're raised with the idea that if you're "lucky enough" you'll find someone who will tolerate your body? Well, finding someone who loves it and you is life-changing. And I see it happen everywhere."

As studies have proven, making someone feel bad for their weight, even if it's under the guise of "being healthy," actually has the opposite effect. And frankly, it's not anyone's business. 

Ultimately, Baker hopes the book and video will show everyone that no matter your body size, you can still be valued as a human and live the life you want to live — and apparently it's working.

"The response to this video has been overwhelmingly powerful with a lot of, 'Well, f-ck. Who's cutting onions in my living room?' and 'I'm not crying, YOU'RE crying,' " she said. "I'm so thrilled that this is reaching so many and offering proof that an incredible life is possible."

She hopes other women will join in and share their stories with #FatGirlsCan, because, well, they can.

Check out the video below:


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