This Actor Explains Why Sexual Assault Victims — Like Himself — Wait To Come Forward And Need To Be Believed

"I understand and empathize with those who have remained silent."

One inevitable thing people challenging those who come forward about sexual assault and sexual harassment ask is "why did you wait so long?" — and it happens every single time.


This results in women, who are usually the victims of these kinds of traumatic events, not being believed and having to prove themselves. Now, in the wake of serious allegations against Harvey Weinstein, one actor has revealed himself to be a victim of unwanted sexual advances by another Hollywood power player and provided the male perspective on waiting to go public about it.

Terry Crews — a former NFL player who currently stars on Fox's Brooklyn Nine-Nine — unleashed a series of tweets on October 10, detailing the incident which took place in 2016. Read the tweets for yourself (from bottom to top) here:

Crews was at an event with his wife (who saw everything) last year when a high-level Hollywood executive came over and "groped" his privates. He was startled and the unnamed man just "grinned like a jerk." Crews had to refrain from the gut reaction to "kick his ass right then" because of how it would appear — a big, strong Black man attacking someone else — and that it would have probably landed him in jail. The 49-year-old confided in a few select people and the man apologized the next day but didn't explain why.

The Michigan-born star said he decided not to pursue it any further because he didn't want to be ostracized, which he said is "par 4 the course" when the predator has power and influence. He let it go and said he understands why women let things like this go out of questioning if you'll be believed, if you'll face repercussions (and what are they), and if you want to work again.

Crews said he loves what he does and that it's a shame and he is disappointed when someone takes advantage of that. The actor said the man "knows who he is" and that he waited to compare notes with other victims and to gain a position of strength.

"I understand and empathize with those who have remained silent," Crews ended the thread in reference to the current scandal rocking Hollywood. "But Harvey Weinstein is not the only perpetrator."

One person who has praised the women coming forward with allegations against Weinstein is Oscar darling Meryl Streep. The 68-year-old actress called the producer's actions "disgraceful," "inexcusable," and an "abuse of power."

"The intrepid women who raised their voices to expose this abuse are our heroes," Streep said in a statement, showing solidarity with the victims. "Each brave voice that is raised, heard, and credited by our watchdog media will ultimately change the game."

Hopefully, now that a man has explained how and why victims might choose to stay silent and discuss this trauma at a later time, we can stop using gender as a reason to not believe women.

(H/T: Jarett Wieselman / Twitter)

Cover image via @terrycrews / Instagram


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