Nicole Kidman’s New Essay Makes A Powerful Statement About The Impact Of Domestic Violence

“It never occurred to me that I should be at a disadvantage because I was born a girl."

Last month, Nicole Kidman won an Emmy for her role as a domestic abuse survivor in the HBO series Big Little Lies. Now she's using her platform to speak out about the impact of domestic violence in a powerful open letter published in Porter magazine

"It never occurred to me that I should be at a disadvantage because I was born a girl," Kidman wrote. "The idea that women and men are equal is part of my DNA. I was raised by a strong feminist mother and a fully supportive father." 

But when Kidman became a Goodwill Ambassador and focused on women's issues, she's realized the unfortunate gender inequality women are subjected to every day. She assumed the role in 2006 and has focused her efforts on raising awareness about women's human rights around the world. In particular, Kidman has aimed to specifically shine a light on violence against women. 

"My feminist roots have also led me to U.N. Women and my work as its Goodwill Ambassador. It is in this role that I come to fully understand the barriers that women around the world are facing. I have focused on lending my voice to women who are survivors of violence. The stories I have heard from them have shaken me to the core and changed me forever," she wrote. 

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"More than ever, I am aware of the need to support and celebrate each other," Kidman continued. "I like to believe I am part of a global support group network of 3.4 billion." 

She then reflected on how so many women, including herself, have been put in unfair situations in which they're subjected to sexism and inequality solely because they are women. 

"In those moments, I like to think of those who have my back, who lifted me up and encouraged me to believe in myself," she wrote. "Imagine: if you can fall back on the 3.5 billion sisters, and the many good men who are with us, what could we possibly not achieve?"

If more of us worked hard to lift others up instead of looking the other way, or worse, bringing others down, we could start to make a real difference in the lives of so many. 

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Kidman briefly addressed the importance of telling her character's story in Big Little Lies during her Emmy speech. She explained that she wanted her daughters to take away something very important from her win. 

"I want them to know that sometimes when you're acting, you get a chance to bring a bigger message, and this is their contribution ... We shone a light on domestic abuse," she said. "It is a complicated, insidious disease. It exists, far more than we allow ourselves to know. It is filled with shame and secrecy, and by you acknowledging me with this award it shines a light on it even more, so thank you, thank you, I bow down to you."

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