This Mom Is Reminding People There’s No One Way To Feed A Baby

"To me, fed is best."

If you're a parent, you probably know there are stigmas associated with bottle or formula feeding children. While many people believe that "breast is best," there are tons of reasons parents may not be able, or choose not to breastfeed. And this mom hopes to remind those parents not to feel guilty. 

Maya Vorderstrasse, who we previously featured for the creative way she tracked her most recent pregnancy, recently took to Instagram to show people there's no one right way to feed a baby. 

She shared a photo of herself breastfeeding her almost 2-month-old daughter, Hazel, while simultaneously formula feeding her 13-month-old daughter, Zoey.


"I will tell you a little about my journey," she wrote. "I always dreamed I would breastfeed my child as long as I could. I've seen so many beautiful and amazing journeys through the bonding and comforting experience that it is. I breastfed my first daughter until she was 6 months old, and I loved all of it. It was our time together, so special ... and no one could take that from me." 

But then Vorderstrasse got pregnant when Zoey was 2 months old. 

"By the time she was almost 6 months old, my milk was gone, dried up, like, it disappeared," she continued. "I felt my heart shatter, and the guilt consumed me. We had to start bottle feeding and I thought our bond would disappear and that she would think I was not providing for her." 

Vorderstrasse's feeling of guilt and worry are common for mothers who bottle feed because of the immense pressure put on them to breastfeed

But then it hit her. "Nothing had changed," she realized. "It was still our time. She'd still grab my hair and smile at me with her eyes. She was so happy. Fed. Loved. Now I breastfeed my youngest, but the comfort of knowing that if life throws me a curved ball and I have to stop, or even if I decide to stop, she will be OK."  

Instead of feeling ashamed for making the switch, she's realized that she's no less of a mom. "Feeding them is beautiful," she wrote. "Providing for them, seeing them gain weight, grow and smile and be milk drunk makes my heart jump in happiness."

She shared her experience on social media in hopes that it'll bring comfort to other mothers who are struggling with how they're feeding their children. 

"I don't know about your journey, but I can tell you that whatever your choice or circumstance, don't ever feel guilty or like you are inadequate. Ever. Just love them and do the best you can," she wrote. "You're a rockstar. No. Matter. What. Whatever your feeding routine consists of, it is hard being a mother, so let's show support for each other! To me, fed is best."


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