Mom Emails School To Tell Them Why Her Daughter Will No Longer Be Doing Homework

"My kid is all done with homework. If the school wants to punish her for it, then I guess I'll have to figure out how to homeschool."

Kids often get stressed out with the amount of homework they have to do. Many of us have been those kids, and know that, sometimes, it can feel like homework is doing more harm than good. 

Mom-of-three Bunmi Laditan recently decided enough was enough for her 10-year-old daughter Maya. Maya's heavy homework load was taking a toll on her mental health. Laditan wrote an email to her daughter's teachers letting them know that after "consulting with a tutor and therapist" she would no longer be doing homework. She shared a screen shot of the email on Facebook along with her thoughts on the situation.  

"My 10-year-old loves learning. She independently reads 10-12 chapter books a year and regularly researches topics that interest her," Laditan wrote on Facebook. "She takes coding classes, loves painting, and likes something called Roblox that I don't fully understand. But over the past four years, I've noticed her getting more and more stressed when it comes to school. And by stressed I mean chest pains, waking up early, and dreading school in general. She's in school from 8:15am - 4pm daily so someone please explain to me why she should have 2-3 hours of homework to do every night?" 


Laditan says her daughter's workload gives Maya very little time to do anything other than homework after she gets home from school. She's unable to spend quality time with her family, do the activities she loves, or just have some time to relax. 

"Children need downtime after school the same way adults need downtime after work," she wrote. "They need to bond with their parents in a relaxed atmosphere, not one where everyone is stressed about fractions because - SURPRISE - I'm not a teacher. Children need time to just enjoy their childhoods or is that just for the weekends (although we do homework on Sundays also)." 

Maya's mental and physical health comes first to Laditan, so she's decided that Maya is "all done with homework." If the school has a problem with this, she plans to hire a tutor and homeschool her instead. 

"We all want our children to grow up and succeed in the world," she wrote. "While I believe in education, I don't believe for one second that academics should consume a child's life. I don't care if she goes to Harvard one day. I just want her to be intelligent, well-rounded, kind, inspired, charitable, spiritual and have balance in her life. I want her to be mentally and emotionally healthy. I want her to know that work is not life, it's part of life. Work will not fulfill you. It will not keep you warm -  family, friends, community, giving back, and being a good person do that." 

Laditan plans to meet with staff at Maya's school on Monday to discuss the situation. She clarified in the comments section of the Facebook post that she doesn't blame her daughter's teachers for a second. 

"They're incredible and I know they have to do things a certain way," she wrote. "This system just isn't working for my family or my child. I can't watch her unravel anymore and be filled with so much stress at age 10. Her dad (who is a very good behavioral therapist) and I have worked hard to reduce her stress, but there's just too much work." 

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Laditan's position is certainly not a new one. In 1968, the American Educational Research Association stated: "Whenever homework crowds out social experience, outdoor recreation, and creative activities, and whenever it usurps time that should be devoted to sleep, it is not meeting the basic needs of children and adolescents." 

A 2001 study found that time commitment to homework was "not associated with higher or lower test scores on any [achievement] tests." 

However, this runs counter to a 2012 study that spending more than two hours a night doing homework is linked to achieving better results in English, math and science

"There is a limit to how much kids can benefit from home study," Harris Cooper, PhD, a social psychologist at Duke University told the American Psychological Association. "At all grade levels, doing other things after school can have positive effects to the extent that homework denies access to other leisure and community activities, it's not serving the child's best interest." 

All in all, Laditan is doing what she thinks is best for her own daughter and we hope she finds the right solution for her family. 

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