Grieving Mom Receives Kind Note From Stranger On A Plane. Now, She Wants To Share It With The World.

"As I walked off the plane he stopped me and handed me a napkin and said he was sorry for my loss and this wasn't much."

Everyone copes with difficult circumstances in their own ways, and it can be hard to find an appropriate way to help someone who is grieving. 

In a post on the Love What Matters Facebook page, Tricia J. Belstra shared what happened when she was traveling on a plane to go bury her son. Belstra writes that she took the flight "not looking or feeling good," sitting in her seat with "a barf bag between her legs." She asked for a soda and a glass of water from a young man taking drink requests. When he asked her if she was OK, she explained her situation, and the young man offered his condolences. 

"The girl next to me offered to pour the water for me because my hands were shaking. When we landed the girl helped me with my luggage. As I am leaving the plane the young man who waited on me was standing on the landing and as I walked off the plane he stopped me and handed me a napkin and said he was sorry for my loss and this wasn't much."

Belstra shares a photo of the napkin in her post. It reads, in part: 

"In 2004, my family lost my older brother. As traumatic as it still is for me, I can't even pretend to truly know the pain you feel as a mother ... Your mission doesn't end now — your son's life is bigger than his death and always will be. My mom struggled desperately chasing a far away goal of somehow lessening the pain. As she has realized not, the pain hardly lessens. Don't expend your energy trying to chase this. Instead, go all out finding opportunities to experience joy. Visit family, get closer to those you've lost touch with, travel. This is your story and you owe it to yourself and your son to make sure that you survive this. Do NOT pressure yourself."


In her post, Belstra thanks the young man for his kind words, noting that he took the time to write this for a complete stranger. 

Belstra's post has also opened up a conversation with others who are grieving. 

"I lost my only son last year. I understand there are no words to say to us parents who are going through this hell on earth, but this man's words are perfect. Very well written," one person writes. 

Another adds that she recently had to fly during similar circumstances, and thanks Belstra for her post. 

Hopefully, Belstra's post encourages others to lend a helping hand — no matter how small — to anyone who seems like they need it. Check out the full post above.


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