Laverne Cox's First Date Rule Is One We Should All Follow

"It's not about trying to make them like me..."

In an video interview with Access Hollywood on Monday, August 21, award-winning actress and transgender activist Laverne Cox shared her signature first date rule: no makeup. Though that might sound scary, if not outright terrifying, to the rest of us mere mortals, Cox explained her thinking behind it — and it's unsurprisingly awesome. 


"My whole dating thing is, I show up as Laverne," she said. "I don't glam up. I give maybe a little powder for shine, and I'm like, this is it ... Because the first few dates, you don't know if they're gonna last or not." Instead, she continued, "... I'm going to put the effort in once you've proven that you deserve all of this." 

And while it may seem like Cox was born with this unshakeable confidence, she was quick to acknowledge that, when she was younger, she didn't have the courage to live by this signature rule. Back then, she was so worried about trying to make her dates like her. "Now," she explained, "it's not about trying to make them like me ... Now, do I like you? Do we have anything in common? Are you into the real, authentic Laverne, stripped way down?"

Outside of her dating life, Cox and other celebrities, notably Alicia Keys, celebrate their natural beauty on social media with makeup-free selfies. And, as with all of Cox's Instagram posts, these advocate share the additional message of #TransIsBeautiful

(Anyone lucky enough to see her walk into a first date would certainly agree.)  

The powerful, self-loving approach Cox takes to her public and personal life is definitely something we can all aspire to, but not every woman feels comfortable going makeup-free in public, especially if she's already nervous about a first date. For those who don't want to go the full Laverne, they can still practice this kind of self-love by doing minimal makeup — maybe just some coverup here and there and a few touches of mascara.

Other women may not feel comfortable looking anything less than their most glam — and that's just fine, and totally empowering, too. Acknowledging and owning that is just another way of staying true to yourself. At the end of the day, or rather date, whatever makes you feel beautiful is what makes you beautiful. 

Cover image via  Featureflash Photo Agency I Shutterstock

(H/T: HuffPost)


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