This Mom Has A Message For People Who Comment On Women's Pregnant Bodies

"I’ve been through so much with this body, how can I resent it and hide it away?"

Pregnancy is different for every woman, even when it comes to the size of the baby bump. Laura Mazza, who blogs at The Mum on the Run,  proves that even one woman's pregnancies can be drastically different from her last.  To illustrate this point, Mazza shared a side-by-side photo of her at 14 weeks pregnant with her first child, and then at nine weeks pregnant with her third. 

"You know, on the left I was 14 weeks pregnant," Mazza wrote November 16 on Facebook.  "First child. I thought I was huge. HUGE. I was embarrassed at how bloated I looked. I spent time hiding my stomach even though people knew I was pregnant. I even wore spanks [sic] to a wedding because I was afraid of how jiggly I looked."  

At the time, Mazza says she felt self-conscious about having the "right size" bump, and having people make unsolicited comments on her body didn't help. Now realizes she should've celebrated her pregnancy, no matter her size. 

"I see it all the time," she wrote. "Women who think their bumps are too small or too big." Sadly, these insecurities stem from outside comments. No matter where you look, there is an ad or message declaring what a woman should or should not look like — even when pregnant.  


“[I see women] who have people constantly commenting on their pregnant bodies,” Mazza wrote. “Constantly saying, ‘You’re sooooooo tiny!’ Or ‘You’re soooo huge!’ like it’s OK to comment and a growing baby makes it free for all.”

Now pregnant with her third child, Mazza feels much more confident with her body than she did her first time around. "I'm double the size of the first," she shared. "There's no muscles in there, I didn't lose the baby weight after the first kid, nor the second, and after this kid I won't rush to lose the weight ... I've been through so much with this body," Mazza continued. "How can I resent it and hide it away? Bodies change. It's brought me children, it's gone through battles, it's had cancer scares with lumps in my boobs, it's fought mental illness, it's wrestled with no sleep and been a home to three kids. Worrying about how big I look surely does it an injustice."

It's so common to discuss the size of baby bumps — we do it with celebrities and even with our loved ones. But we have to remember that those baby bumps belong to feeling women with boundaries, and it's always best to avoid making unsolicited comments on a a person's body.   For the folks who don't think it's a big deal commenting on baby bumps, Mazza has a message for you: "Please well-meaning individuals who feel the need to comment on a pregnant woman's body, or any woman's body, know this, the only time you should worry if something is too big or too small, is the cake and flowers you're gonna buy her for being such an amazing human being."

(H/T: Yahoo Lifestyle)

Cover image via Laura Mazza / Facebook


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