You May Think You're Helping Mothers, But 95 Percent Of Them Say They Feel Judged

Stop it.

From working moms to stay-at-home moms, to moms who breastfeed and moms who don't, every mother is different. 

But according to a short documentary, "The #EndMommyWars Film," 95 percent of them share an upsetting commonality: They feel judged about their choices regarding their children and their lifestyles.

"It's very easy to be judgmental of others and I think that's why people are judgmental — because it really is easy," one of the mothers says at the start of the video, uploaded to YouTube by Similac, a company "committed to helping moms and dads parent their own way."


The film highlights multiple mothers, all of whom are making their own unique parenting decisions. 

First, Ada says that she recognizes how judgmental she was before she had children of her own: "I was the one who would give moms with crying babies the dirtiest look," she adds.

Now, Ada works to balance motherhood and her career — a job in which she is surrounded by men. The documentary shows her closing herself off behind a whiteboard to pump breast milk in the middle of the day.

"I don't want pumping to be an excuse for me to not perform well at work," she says.

Next, Shyrelle, a single mother, explains the judgment she feels for raising a child without a husband. She says that when she was pregnant, she noticed people glancing back and forth between her belly and her ring finger, wondering why she wasn't married.

Moreover, to keep up with her finances, Shyrelle works a day job and leaves her baby with her grandmother. 

Shyrelle tears up, explaining, "No one's going to be able to pay my bills for me if I were to stay home. If not going back to work were something that I could do I would absolutely do it. I'd stay home with her."

Third, the film interviews Dawn, a mother who is trying to raise a gender-neutral child. She explains that "it's a compromise for me to say he's a boy, he's a he" because of how she wants to raise her baby.

Dawn, along with Shyrelle, Ada and a handful of other moms, each tell their stories separately before the documentary gathers them together in the same space.

"When I first arrived and saw all the moms, I definitely judged them," Dawn admits. "They're so pretty, they must not be nice. Which is totally ridiculous, but that was like something left over from middle school."

The women then share stories with one another, including ones of miscarriage, and proceed to admit to their judgments. They begin to unite under their similarities and appreciate each other's differences.

"It doesn't matter what other people think is right or wrong, it's up to you," Jennifer, a mother of two, tells the group.

At the end of the film, viewers are called to #EndMommyWars and stop the judgment.

"There's nothing more satisfying to hear from another mom then you're a great mom. You're doing a wonderful job," Jennifer adds. "That's sometimes all you need to hear." 

Be sure to watch the full video below:

(H/T: Mashable)


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