Mom Of Son With Limb Difference Encourages Parents To Teach Their Kids Compassion

"Consider that there is a living, feeling person on the other end."

Everyone is different. It's OK to be curious about what separates you from someone else, but it's important to remember that there is a sensitive person on the other side. Failing to take their feelings into consideration can result in you offending them or hurting their feelings.

In an effort to help people like her son, Zack, Jill Robbins is encouraging parents to teach their kids this important lesson as everyone goes back to school. The mom wrote a post on her Facebook page Ripped Jeans and Bifocals explaining that her 7-year-old has a limb difference where part of his right hand isn't fully formed. The boy, who is about to go into the second grade, is worried about his peers' reaction to his "little hand."


Robbins wrote that since they adopted Zack when he was 2 years old, the family has seen his limb difference as no big deal. He's able to climb, color, and carry his laundry basket, and he is "normally confident and gregarious."

However, Robbins revealed that Zack has been worried about school because students might ask questions about his limb difference, and he's tired of explaining that this was the way he was born. 

When he asked his mom if it was OK to feel this way, she said it was, although people might still be curious.

In response, he said, "Please don't let them be mean to me, Mommy."

After coaxing her son, Robbins found out that he's concerned because he was taunted at day camp this summer for his limb difference.

This is why Robbins is taking to Facebook to encourage parents to teach their kids about "not being jerks."

She wrote, "Ask questions and be curious about people who look different than you look. But before you stop to ask questions, consider that there is a living, feeling person on the other end."

For parents of a child with special needs or limb differences, Robbins wants them to pay attention to their kids. "If you have a child who is different, in any respect, keep paying attention to what they're experiencing, thinking, and feeling. Their perception of being taunted or ostracized MATTERS," she explained.

She ended the post by asking everyone to talk about differences and inclusion.

The CDC reports that approximately 1,500 babies are born in the United States every year with upper limb reduction defects and 750 with lower limb defects. These kids can have difficulty with development, motor skills, and experience limitations. Plus, they can experience emotional and social hardships from their limb differences, which is why compassion and kindness are so important.

(H/T: Scary Mommy)


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