Someone Came Up With A Brilliant Way To Break The News About Santa Without Crushing A Kid's Spirit

"This way, the Santa construct is not a lie that gets discovered, but an unfolding series of good deeds and Christmas spirit."

If it's about time to tell your kids the truth about Santa but aren't sure how to do it without crushing dreams or breaking spirits, rest easy — we've just discovered the best method. 

It can be difficult for any kid to learn that, spoiler alert, Santa Claus is a total farce, but breaking that news can be hard on parents, too. Charity Hutchinson, the mother of two young boys and the aunt to two nephews she cares for, found herself feeling saddened and at a loss for words when one of her nephews disappointedly told her that he no longer believed in Santa. 


Many years ago, mother of two Leslie Rush constructed a way to transition children from receiving gifts from Santa to "becoming" Santa.

Hutchinson was so moved by the idea, she just had to share Rush's tradition on her own Facebook page

The method works by taking the child, who's ready to learn the truth, out for a one-on-one meal. Then, you acknowledge some of the good deeds the child has done in the past year and some examples of their empathetic behavior. Finally, you break the news. 

"In fact, your heart has grown so much that I think you are ready to become a Santa Claus. You probably have noticed that most of the Santas you see are people dressed up like him. Some of your friends might have even told you that there is no Santa. A lot of children think that, because they aren't ready to BE a Santa yet, but YOU ARE," the post encourages you to say. 

"Well, now YOU are ready to do your first job as a Santa!"

Then, ask the child to choose someone they know, such as a neighbor, that they think deserves a special gift from Santa. 

"The child's mission is to secretly, deviously, find out something that the person needs, and then provide it, wrap it, deliver it —and never reveal to the target where it came from. Being a Santa isn't about getting credit, you see. It's unselfish giving," the post explains.

The post been shared more than 10,000 times since it was posted by Hutchinson two weeks ago and has over 1,300 comments filled with praise for the idea. 

Hutchinson eventually went back to her nephew and tried Rush's "becoming Santa" concept on him. He was immediately overjoyed and excited by the idea.

"He started planning who his special target would be and what he would get them and how he'd pull it off," Hutchinson told TODAY. "Suddenly, instead of him planning just his Christmas list for us, he was secretly planning his mission now too."

Not only does this method help kids avoid disappointment, but it teaches them the importance of giving and helping others. And, it's parenting expert approved. 

"Teaching children that they are part of a larger community, that they can be magic and bring magic into someone else's life, gives them the best kind of power," child development expert Dr. Deborah Gilboa told TODAY. "Be ready for questions, but the bigger point — that kids can still get while becoming a giver — is not only an excellent solution to a tricky question; it has the added gift of being true."

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