Mom Writes Heartfelt Letter To Her Foster Daughters On Their Adoption Day

"I don’t love you 'like you’re my own.'"

There are about 408,425 children in the United States foster care system and more than 100,000 of those children are waiting to be adopted, according to the Children's Action Network. "Through no fault of their own, these children enter foster care as a result of abuse, neglect and/or abandonment," it says on the organization's website. 

Jamie C., who writes at the blog Foster the Family, is the mother of two biological children and became interested in the foster care system about three years ago. 

"I was compelled by the stories of children, just like mine, living right across town from me who were hurt, starved, raped, ignored. I was compelled by the statistics that predict these kids' futures: jail, pregnancy, homelessness, further abuse," Jamie told A Plus. 

Jaime and her husband decided to take in a baby girl in August of 2014. A few months later, they took in a second foster daughter. 


About two years later, the couple adopted the girls who are now ages 2 and 3. Jaime wrote an emotionally charged letter to both of her daughters on their adoption day. 

"I've called you by that label, that sacred name, 'daughter,' many times. But today is different. Today there's no prefix, no subtext, no 'sort of but not really' as there has always been before. You're not my foster daughter, I don't love you 'like you're my own.' Today you are wholly, completely, for forever my daughter," she wrote. "After bursting into our family, you eased into our lives and hearts. The formalities of our state-regulated, court-appointed, 'temporary' relationship faded away. We dropped the 'foster' from your title, and you simply became 'daughter.' "

Jamie went on to explain how adoption and having her own biological children is totally different. It is, however, similar to how she felt when she married her husband. 

"When I birthed your brother and sister, becoming a mother and loving them as a mother loves, completely shocked me. One moment they weren't here, and the next I loved them more than life. Today isn't like that," she wrote. "Today reminds me more of when I married your daddy. I met him. Then I fell in love with him, knew I would spend the rest of my life with him. And then came the day to make it official. Papers were signed, names were changed, ceremonies were had, but I didn't love him any more than I had the day before. He was the same. I was the same. Nothing had changed. But everything had. After that day, we belonged to each other, officially, forever." 

"I believe that, as of today, our family is now complete. That the six of us will be at this "family" thing, just us, forever. As far as I can see, our growing family has finished growing. But maybe I'm wrong. Maybe others will join this little unit of ours. But, I know, I know, that no matter what, we are a family now. Forever," she wrote.  

Jamie's heartfelt letter to her daughter went viral after it was shared to the Love What Matters Facebook page and garnered over 500 shares and over 10,000 likes in just 24 hours. 

"The love is real. I am their 'real' mom and they are my 'real' daughters," Jamie told A Plus. 

She hopes other people who read her letter and blog will be inspired to look into the foster care system and adoption as options for their families as well. 

"Don't ignore the urging that keeps bringing adoption into your mind and heart. Read about adoption and foster care, follow adoptive or foster parents online, get to know a foster or adoptive family. Go to a meeting at your state child protection agency or a private adoption agency and be informed," she said. 

To learn more about adoption and the foster care system, please visit AdoptUSKids. To see other kids who have happily found their forever homes, check out photos from Together We Rise. 

(H/T: Love What Matters)  


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