7 Reasons Why Dating Is Unfair For Young Women Today And You Had No Idea

Dating is a crazy numbers game.

Author Jon Birger just wrote a new book called "Date-onomics" which details the challenges that young college-educated women face when dating.

"Today's uneven gender ratios add up to sexual nirvana for heterosexual men, but for heterosexual women — especially those who put a high priority on getting married and having children in wedlock — they represent a demographic time bomb," Birger wrote in the Washington Post.

Here are seven ways that dating can be grossly unfair for today's women, and Birger says the problems originate in college:


1. There is a shortage of educated young men.

There is bit of a gender imbalance on college campuses. 57 percent of bachelor's degrees are earned by women and 43 percent are earned by men. The result: there are four college-educated women for every three college-educated men. No matter how you look at the numbers, there are way more college-educated women than men.

2. Young men hold all of the cards.

The consequence of the college gender imbalance, Birger suggests, is that young men are in high demand and don't want to settle down. Thus, they control the dating game on their terms where romantic interactions become more sexually based. The result: Women could be more "sexually objectified."

3. Tinder might not be to blame.

While there has been a lot of criticism towards Tinder and other dating apps for creating this current conundrum, dating has been hectic long before the creation of these mobile applications. Thus, Tinder might not be the cause of the problem, but rather the effect.

4. Women might be overlooking guys without a higher education.

While college-educated women might only want to date college-educated men, the numbers don't work in their favor. One solution would be for college-educated women to expand their dating searches to other men. Among non-college educated men in the U.S. age 22 to 29, there are 9.4 million single men versus 7.1 million single women. That's a surplus of young men that young women could consider dating.

5. Young women competing over a small number of guys.

As one female college student said to WND: "Out of that 40 percent male population, there are maybe 20 percent we would consider dating, and out of those 20 percent, 10 have girlfriends, so all the girls are fighting over that other 10 percent." Whether or not this is true, it certainly seems unideal.

6. The LGBT factor in certain cities.

In many LGBT-friendly cities, like New York, Miami and Washington, there are more gay men among the dating population. Jon Birger estimates that the result of this is a ratio of roughly three straight women for every two men, which is another factor working against the odds of women.

7. The best and worst cities for single women might surprise you.

One factor that women should consider is the number of employed single young men in each metro area. The best cities with a high ratio of these men include San Jose, Denver and San Diego. The worst cities with a low ratio of available men include Memphis, Jacksonville and Detroit.

(H/T: Washington Post)

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