In An Emotional Letter, This Adopted Woman Thanked Her Birth Mother For Giving Her Up

"After growing my babies inside of me and watching them come into the world, I now understand the weight of what you did for me."

About 135,000 children are adopted in the United States each year and each one has a different story to tell. However, on TV and the silver screen, we most often see stories of people who struggle with feeling unwanted by their birth parents.

Recently, 35-year-old Dana Mason Womer penned a love letter that explains what she calls her more "simple story." Womer's story, which was shared on the Love What Matters Facebook page, show what it's like to be an adopted person who is thankful her birth parents gave her the opportunity to grow up with her adoptive parents. 

"I am adopted. This is a phrase I have said hundreds of times in my life. When I'm at a new doctor and they want my family history: I am adopted. When my kid's doctor wants a family history on his maternal side: I don't know. I'm adopted. When someone comments on how I look nothing like my little sister: It's because I'm adopted," she wrote.

Womer doesn't know much about who her birth parents are, but her mother was 21 years old when she had her and wasn't ready to raise a child. Instead, she gave her up for adoption to a couple who had struggled for years with infertility

"My entire life is a love letter I've been writing to my birth mother and to my mom and dad," she wrote. "I try to live each day with intention, to be kind to others, to smile, to be open to new opportunities. I am very aware that my life was a gift given to me by these three people and I do not intend to waste it." 


Womer went on to explain that her childhood was a happy one and she grew up in home where she knew she was loved. Still, she wonders about her birth parents and thinks about what she'd say if she had to chance to talk to her birth mother. 

"To my birth mother: I don't think that we will ever meet, but I already know you," she wrote. "I have your blood running through my veins, your curly hair, your laugh. I have your messiness (hello, nature vs. nurture) and your feisty attitude. But I also like to think I inherited a 'kind and generous' gene from you. After growing my babies inside of me and watching them come into the world two times over, I now understand the weight of what you did for me – choosing to keep me safe those long nine months, every scream you let out and every aching pain you felt while bringing me into the world, bearing the burden of giving your child a future by giving her away – for all that and more I thank you. I love you and I thank you." 

And, she wants her adoptive parents to know she is incredibly thankful for everything they have done for her — including making sure she had a lasting relationship with both of their families, encouraging her to spend time outside, sending her to camp and college, giving her her sense of humor, teaching her that freedom comes responsibility, and for instilling a deep love for the Iowa Hawkeyes. 

"Thank you for choosing me, for waiting and for keeping your hearts open and for saying yes when that call came," she wrote. "Thank you for being the role models I base my parenting on and for supporting my family's decision to move across the country, and for answering every phone call, every text, every FaceTime. Thank you for always knowing when I need you. Thank you for keeping me safe for thirty-five years and counting. I am adopted. And I am so very lucky."

The post has inspired many others affected by adoption — birth parents, adoptive parents, and other people who have been adopted — to share their stories. It has been shared more than 900 times and has received more than 11,000 likes on Facebook. 

To learn more about adoption as well as the foster care system, please visit AdoptUSKids


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