This Mom Wants Everyone To Realize Dads Aren't Babysitters — They're Parents

"He’s in this thing called fatherhood."

Despite society's push for gender equality, most people still assume mothers should be their kids' primary caretaker, while fathers should be the family's financial providers. However, one mom wants people to realize that her husband isn't some random babysitter — he's her partner in everything they do.

Angel, also known as The Bluegrass Mom, posted the now-viral image of her family in an effort to convey the fact her husband isn't a mere stand-in for when she needs a break. He's a co-parent who's equally responsible for caring for their kids.

"People are shocked to hear that my husband does night feedings and lets me sleep," Angel wrote on Facebook. "They think it's so sweet that he 'lets me' go to coffee shop sans kids for an hour to work. And they can't believe that he 'watches' the kids while I go for a long run to unwind at the end of the day. "

While outsiders feel the need to praise her husband (or any man, for that matter) any time he carries his share of the load, Angel's post reinforces that he's simply doing what every father should.

"My husband does not babysit our kids," she said. "He is a parent." 


"He's in this thing called fatherhood," she added. "He's not watching it play out, but an active participant in raising his kids, from the piggy back rides to handling the tantrums, he's there. Showing my kids what it means to be a father, husband, and a man and I couldn't be happier ... and more rested because of him."

Fathers are also trying to fight the sexist standards that downplay their role as caretakers. Justin Simard, for instance, posted a viral photo of the antiquated signs in the parking lot of his local supermarket. While the signs indicate that certain spaces are reserved for expectant mothers, and rightfully so, they also imply that only mothers bring their small children to the store.

Stay-at-home dads are also trying to battle the assumption that this lifestyle choice could never satisfy a man because it doesn't adhere to traditional gender roles. After all, the mere lack of changing tables in the men's restroom and the lackluster paternity leave policies that discount the value of fatherhood perpetuate the stereotypes that exacerbate gender inequality in the first place.

As Jeremy Martin-Weber wrote in his now-viral Facebook post, he's much more than his kids' playmate. He's not coming to the rescue while his wife's away. He's simply doing what every responsible father should do.

"I'm their dad. And looking after them and guiding them and caring for them is my responsibility. And I love it — with all of its challenges," he said. "No the house will not fall apart or be trashed and the kids will not be ruined because dad is in charge. And no, I don't deserve anyone's special praise and adoration because 'Wow! This dad can look after his own kids.' I'm just doing what every parent should do, and what moms do every day without praise or adoration." 

Cover image via  Tania Kolinko / Shutterstock


Subscribe to our newsletter and get the latest news and exclusive updates.