Why This Dad Refused To Be Embarrassed By His Toddler's Temper Tantrum In Whole Foods

"My dad taught me so much about what it means to be a man, but this post is about one thing and one thing only."

We've all seen kids have total meltdowns in the middle of a store. Maybe it was someone else's kid. Maybe it was your own. Or maybe you yourself remember losing it in the middle of the snack aisle. Parents have different ways of dealing with their children's temper tantrums in public, but this dad is going viral for his approach. 

Justin Baldoni was in a Whole Foods with his dad, wife, and daughter when his daughter had a full-blown tantrum, and threw herself onto the floor. 

So, what did this Baldoni do? Absolutely nothing. 


His wife snapped a photo of Baldoni and his dad standing over the screaming child, and looking down at her on the floor. Baldoni shared the photo on social media along with an explanation of his approach

"Two men, standing together in silence, forever bonded by an unconditional love for both each other and this brand new, raw and pure soul who we would both go to the ends of the earth for," he wrote. "I can only imagine how many times I did this when I was her age. My dad taught me so much about what it means to be a man, but this post is about one thing and one thing only. Being comfortable in the uncomfortable. Something I grew up watching him do with me over and over again." 

"There are no perfect parents, but one thing my dad taught me is to not parent based on what anyone else thinks."

"My dad always let me feel what I needed to feel, even if it was in public and embarrassing," Baldoni continued. "I don't remember him ever saying, 'You're embarrassing me!' or 'Dont cry!' It wasn't until recently that I realized how paramount that was for my own emotional development." 

Sure, getting stares from strangers — or worse, hearing their judgements about your ability to parent — isn't always easy to deal with. Standing by while your child lashes out in a public space is uncomfortable and far from fun, but Baldoni argues that parents shouldn't be embarrassed by the way their kids deal with learning to be a person in the world. 

"Our children are learning and processing so much information and they don't know what to do with all of these new feelings that come up. I try to remember to make sure my daughter knows it's OK that she feels deeply," he wrote. "It's not embarrassing to me when she throw tantrums in the grocery store, or screams on a plane. I'm her dad…not yours. Let's not be embarrassed for our children. It doesn't reflect on you." 

In fact, Baldoni thinks adults can learn a thing or two from these screaming kids. 

"We should probably be a little more kind and patient with ourselves too," he wrote. "If we got out everything we were feeling and allowed ourselves to throw tantrums and cry when we felt the need to, then maybe we'd could also let ourselves feel more joy and happiness. And that is something this world could definitely use a little more of." 

In just four days, Baldoni's post on Instagram has amassed nearly 88,000 likes and has been shared more than 27,000 times on Facebook. Many people have taken to the comments to praise Baldoni while some others have criticized his parenting skills. At the end of the day, this is an approach he believes works for his family. 

Next time you see a kid losing it at the shop you're in, Baldoni's post might just pop into your head. And, like many of the other people in the background of this photo, maybe you'll just to continue doing your grocery shopping instead of staring and judging. 


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