Why A Dad Wrote An Apology To People At The Hospital Where His Son's Being Treated

"I have loved these doors and hated these doors."

Dad Dan Langlois has been to the Children's Hospital of Wisconsin numerous times over the last eight years with his son, Gabriel. The boy was born with spina bifida, a condition caused when a baby's spine and spinal cord don't develop properly in the womb, resulting in a gap. According to Babble, Gabriel is, for the most part, bound to a wheelchair, and is at risk for kidney and bladder issues. The 8-year-old has had 20 surgeries for the condition, which have all been performed at the Milwaukee hospital.

When Langlois and his son were recently leaving the hospital after another appointment, the dad felt something different which compelled him to take a photo of the doors on the way out.


When he got home, he wrote a heartfelt apology letter to the hospital and everyone connected to it.

The letter was shared on the Children's Hospital of Wisconsin Facebook page and it explains why Langlois felt the need to apologize.

"I have loved these doors and hated these doors," he writes. "I loved these doors when my wife and I walked through them for the first time to meet our son. I hated these doors when I walked through them for his 20 surgeries. I loved them when walking back out after the surgeries. I hated them for the 180 plus-mile trip for a single 10-minute checkup. I loved these doors when walking out after learning that surgery or admittance is not required."

On his recent visit, he found himself thinking differently. "The other day, walking through [the doors] again with my son (I have lost count how many times over the past eight years we've made this trip), I was struck with a different feeling: guilt. I'm not sure where it came from, but I realized I need to apologize."

This begins his sincere apology to everyone connected with the hospital, including parents, doctors, other medical professionals, custodians, security, social services and more.

"To every child that has walked in through these doors, but never walked back out again, I am sorry," he writes. "To every parent that has walked in through these doors with their child, but left through these doors empty handed, I am sorry."

"To every doctor, nurse, PA, NP, surgical tech and other members of the medical staff that have had to walk through these doors after giving everything they had to saving the life of a child and have that child pass anyway, I am sorry."

He ends the apology letter, "I cannot begin to imagine what all these people go through, and I hope that I never will. Until I do, I will love these doors."

The post has gone viral and had many other parents sharing their stories.

 After the post generated almost 800 comments in a couple of days, The Children's Hospital of Wisconsin posted a message thanking everyone.

Langlois told Journal Sentinel about the viral reaction, "I never expected anything quite like this, as far as people just pouring their hearts out."

"It is a little surreal," he continued to Babble. "It has also been quite humbling to read some of the stories that people have shared of their experiences."

Langlois and his wife have four adopted children, including Gabriel, and all the kids have physiological or neurological special needs. The family has also fostered half a dozen more kids over the years. Their goal is to give the children the happiest, most fulfilled lives.


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