Mom Encourages Parents To 'Just Take The Picture' In Viral Message

"I always assume it will be posted and everyone will see it. But it doesn't have to be that way."

Living in a social media-obsessed culture puts pressure on us to look perfect in each photo we take since they all have the potential to end up online.  Sometimes, it can feel easier to just opt out. 

Blogger Cyndy Gatewood, a mom of three, recently shared on Facebook that this attitude has kept her from snapping memories with her children

"I looked through my phone the other day and realized I have tons of pictures of my husband playing with our kids, but we don't have many of ME with the kids," she wrote. "And it's totally my fault. I'm either always behind the camera, or never want him take a candid picture of me. I always feel like I have to have on makeup or have a good angle because I have a social media mentality. I always assume it will be posted and everyone will see it. But it doesn't have to be that way." 

In her post, Gatewood encourages dads to take photos of their partners, without warning and without posing. And not just on special occasions, but also during the everyday moments like when she's helping her kids with their homework or when she's talking to her son about how his day was. 

"Time goes by so fast and everyday [sic] these sweet babies are getting older and older. Before we know it, they'll be packing up their cars and moving off to college. Take the picture. One day she'll be gone ,and all the kids have left of her are memories," she wrote. "Take the pictures to show them the love she had for them. It doesn't matter if she's in her pajamas and on day 4 of dry shampoo, please, take the picture." 


While her post was directed toward men because of her own experiences, the same idea holds true for women. Both moms and dads could benefit from being in more photos with their kids and preserving their memories. 

"My mom passed away when I was 20 years old. All I have are pictures. I stare at the pictures of her holding me in her lap laughing at something cute I must have said. I zoom in on pictures of her hands to see if I have the same ones as I've gotten older," Gatewood shared. "You can't capture things like that in a selfie. Please, take the picture." 

Based on the reaction to the post, it's clear this sentiment struck a nerve with many people. It's been shared more than 270,000 times and has over 145,000 likes. The comments are filled with people tagging their partners as encouragement to just take the picture. 

And for anyone who's worried that they'll look less-than-perfect in it, just remember you'll be preserving that special moment — and no one will care whether you're wearing makeup or not when they look back on it. 


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