This Video Reminds Us There's No Wrong Way To Cope With Grief During The Holidays

"We didn't even put up a tree this year. Mom can't even open the ornament box."

The holidays are supposed to be a joyous time where people take stock of the things they're thankful for, spend time with their families, and make beautiful memories. But, for some people, the holidays can be an overwhelming and difficult reminder of the loved one they lost. 

In a video for The Scene, one woman explains what it's like for her to grieve her father during the holidays.

"It's the second Christmas since Dad died. Everyone says, 'Oh, it gets much easier after the first year.' Bullshit. This doesn't feel easier at all," she said. "We didn't even put up a tree this year. Mom can't even open the ornament box."

But the grief she's feeling doesn't mean she doesn't want anyone to enjoy the holidays. For now, she just can't bring herself to. 

"Everyone seems so happy. They should be! Everyone's supposed to be happy, supposed to be with family, supposed to be going to parties," she said. "I want to do that, but all that just makes me wish I could run home and hug my dad and open his weird creative gift that I hated but pretended to like." 

The video helps to bring awareness to those who may know someone who has lost a loved one. It also reminds those grieving that their not alone and it's completely OK to not get into the holiday spirit until they feel ready. They should allow themselves to feel sad and angry, but, also, to not feel guilty if instead they find themselves experiencing laughter or joy. There's no wrong way to cope. 

You can watch the video below:


At the end of the video, The Scene shares a help hotline you can call if you're struggling with grief. We'd like to reiterate that here. Call the SAMHSA helpline at 1-800-662-HELP for free 24/7, 365-day-a-year to speak with someone confidentially. 


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