Her Daughter's 'Bonus Mom' Is Showing Us Just What Co-Parenting Is All About

"The more people that love your child or children, the better."

There is no one way to define a "family." Different structures work for different people, and so long as there is love and care involved, not too much else is needed. For divorced couples with kids, however, it can sometimes be a hard adjustment when an ex-spouse remarries or finds a new partner, who then takes on an important role in the child's life. 

For some, this might feel threatening. But one mom named Brittney Johnson recently wrote in a Facebook post why she feels only gratitude toward her ex-husband's partner, Kayla Imhoff, for becoming a part of her daughter's life. 


The Missouri mom points out that having a "bonus mom" love your child as their own is exactly what people should want.

Johnson explains that after she split up with her daughter's father, she prayed he would find someone amazing because her daughter Payton would be raised between two homes.

For this reason, she felt blessed when Imhoff —  a trained nurse, and the kind of woman Johnson would want her daughter to be around — came into their lives. 

"Thank you, Kayla, for showing Payton how to chase her dreams, how to work hard, and stay up late to study for a test. Thank you for still making time to ride her bike with her and make her mac and cheese even in one of the stressful times of your life."

Johnson concluded, "You're a true role model, and an amazing bonus mom, and we are so proud of you!"

For other families that are co-parenting, Johnson urges them to consider what's best for their children. She says that because of a co-parenting relationship, her daughter has more people to love her.

After Johnson wrote her Facebook post on July 12, it was shared with many families tagging "bonus" moms and dads. Johnson later posted an update about how pleased she was to see the co-parenting message being spread. "I can't express enough how much I love that this positive message is being spread. The number of people tagging their bonus mom all over these posts makes my heart so happy," she said.

Imhoff wrote on Facebook, "I hope co-parents everywhere can take a lesson from us!"

Johnson revealed to Romper that once you get over the initial concern that kids can like the "bonus" parent better, you can build a fantastic relationship.

She suggests, "Take the time to learn where they came from, what their hobbies are, and appreciate what they bring to the table. The more people that love your child or children, the better."

She added, "After meeting Kayla, I realized how sweet she was, and that she only had good intentions and it made it easier for me to want to get to know her ... Kayla and I have both always had an open mind and that has made all the difference."

(H/T: Popsugar)


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