This Woman Used Her Dog To Explain Victim Blaming, And Her Metaphor Is Going Viral

"If a dog is better behaved than you are, you need to reevaluate your life."

Fed up with the culture of victim blaming — when the injured party of a crime or any wrongful act is held entirely or partially responsible for the harm that befell them — 22-year-old Bree Wiseman decided to take matters into her own hands and do something about it.

But instead of crafting a lengthy Facebook post detailing the reasons why victim blaming is harmful, uncalled for, and flat-out wrong, Wiseman used her dog and a piece of steak to create a poignant and brilliant analogy that gets to the heart of how ridiculous victim blaming actually is.

In a Facebook post first published on July 19, Wiseman shared a photo of her adorable dog patiently and obediently sitting only feet away from a plate stacked with scrumptious looking steak and veggies. "To the people that say women get raped due to the way they are dressed. This is my dog. His favorite food is steak. He is eye level with my plate. He won't get any closer because I told him no," Wiseman wrote alongside the picture. "If a dog is better behaved than you are, you need to reevaluate your life."


"Feel free to share, my dog is adorable," she cheekily added.

And people listened. The post has garnered upwards of 167,000 likes, nearly 277,000 shares, and more than 4,500 comments, many of which applaud Wiseman for making a succinct and crucial point about the absurdity of victim blaming.

"If a 4-year-old pit bull understands the word 'no,' even though he is looking at something he wants so bad he is literally drooling, then adults should understand 'no,' no matter how the other adult is dressed. Appearances shouldn't make any difference in sexual assault cases," Wiseman explains to HuffPost, "How is it that a simple-minded animal has the ability to understand better than a large part of the adult population?"

Per a 2016 article in U.S. News & World Report, victim blaming can leave survivors without resources or support with which to deal with their abuse. As the article explains, "It can also make it less likely a person will seek psychological treatment to address issues such as depression and post-traumatic stress disorder that may result from being abused."

In fact, victim blaming has the potential to be so damaging that Dr. Anju Hurria, a psychiatrist and assistant clinical professor of child and adolescent psychiatry at University of California–Irvine, tells the publication, "It's really considered a secondary trauma or a secondary assault."

For Wiseman, situations of sexual assault should be seen as very black and white. "The only person to blame in a rape offense is the rapist," she tells HuffPost. "It was their decision to rape. People shouldn't have to worry about what they chose to wear for fear of rape. I want people to see that this is a problem, and to stand together against victim-shaming."


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