Women Talk About Their Complicated Relationship With A Scale Before Taking A Sledgehammer To It

The number does not define your worth.

The infamous bathroom scale is probably the scariest household item known to anyone who has ever obsessed over their weight. The anticipation of those tiny numbers appearing on that cold little box can cause some serious anxiety — even if you're the only one seeing them. 

Although stepping on the scale is usually a private moment, your mind can feel exposed to all of the expectations and pressures of the world. In a new video from BuzzFeed's Boldly channel, five women ages 24-35 are asked to weigh themselves on camera. Of course, the participants were nervous. Before beginning the social experiment, the women shared their own body insecurities and what the scale means to them. 


"I have so many ways that I've identified that I'm a worthy person, that I wonder if I still feel the same about what a number means to me," said participant CT Treibel, 35. "I haven't weighed myself since I was 21 years old."

Like so many other women in the world, some of the participants grew up with toxic perceptions of weight and beauty. "My relationship with [the scale] is unhealthy," said 29-year-old Tan. "I grew up in a really healthy household — almost too healthy — so as a kid even I had a calorie-counter book. We used to weigh ourselves all the time."

Weight is widely used as  a symbol of progress or level of perfection. "Like a lot of people, I have a love/hate relationship with my body," said 27-year-old Nina. "For me, sometimes I feel so defeated getting on the scale. So instead of it being a tool for progress, it's like 'why would you ever be happy with yourself? Look at the number.' "

"My relationship with the scale was defining," said 24-year-old Lindsay. For so many people, the number on the scale is used to define self-worth. Limiting and unattainable beauty standards and societal body-shaming affect us more than we realize. Unfortunately, it's these troubling and discouraging things that can lead to serious issues like eating disorders and negative effects on our mental wellness.

As the women prepared to step on the scale, the video suddenly took a new direction. Instead of weighing themselves, the women were given some goggles and a sledgehammer — they were going to destroy that scale. 

This empowering moment showed the women smashed away all of the insecurities and shame tied to the scale. "The scale represents so many shitty feelings for so many people," Nina said. "It feels good to fuck shit up that's such a cause of pain and anxiety."


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