9 People Shared The Best Advice Their Moms Gave Them, Proving Mother Really Does Know Best

What is the best advice your mother ever gave you?

We don't know how they do it, but moms seem to have a knack for being right. They also have a way of making their wise words stick. 

A user on Quora — a social networking site where people answer questions posed by the community — knows this first hand. "I think the very best advice I ever got from anyone, mother included, was simply that you cannot change other people, you can only change your REACTION to other people," the Quora user wrote. "This advice is put to use by me on an almost daily basis, as I encounter one situation after another wherein I would do something completely different or choose a radically different option than what I see others take." 

This Quora user wanted to know what words of wisdom others have learned from their mothers, so they started a thread asking, "What is the best advice your mother ever gave you?" 

The post has over 100 responses, with more than 2,500 people following it. So, we pulled some of our favorite pieces of advice fellow users wrote to share with you. 


1. "You don't marry a man, you marry a lifestyle."

"Ultimately, your partner's values and expectations, both for themselves and for you, will make a bigger difference on your life and lifestyle than any other choice you make. Trust your gut, and marry someone who makes you feel better, and brings out the best in you. Chose someone who you enjoy being around, and who makes you a better person," Mira Zaslove wrote.

2. "If you want to understand what someone values, start by taking a close look at what they have."

"It helps me understand others ... It helps me understand companies ... [and] It keeps me honest with myself. I'm working far more than I'm seeing my family.  Am I collecting things I don't value at the expense of things I do?" Vince Monical wrote

3. "Treat people like humans and not vending machines."


"Shopping with my mom always turns into a test of my patience. She has this annoying habit of conversing with the vegetable vendors, her tailor, shopkeepers, temple priests and even our roadside cobbler; conversation that goes way beyond my standard line of 'kitna hua?' ('how much?'). I stomp my feet like an 8-year-old and start pulling her away but she has to know how their kids are doing and how their business is faring," Sangeetha Thiyagarajan wrote

"My highly educated-trained-to-be-rational mind 'tut-tuts' in disapproval. Till of course I see the fruit vendor delivering fruits to our doorstep every week, the youth from the pharmacy running back and forth from the shop to get stuff for her, the tailor who prioritizes mom's work and the priests who offer us special prasad (only when my mom comes along of course)." 

4. “Will you remember this in five years?”

"The five year rule is essentially this: before you get angry, hurt, upset, end a friendship, make a big decision or hold a grudge, think of this first: will you feel the same exact way you do now five years from now?" Gaby Martino wrote

5. “Always conduct yourself in a way such that if anyone spoke ill of you, nobody would believe it.”

"I can't honestly say that I follow this 100 percent of the time. (Sorry, Mom.) But she's been absolutely right about it," Rebecca Massey wrote. "My statements, my actions, and my judgments have each in their turn been wrong at multiple points in my life. Sometimes, I've been called out on them and suffered for them, and rightly so.

"But every time my character has been held up for questioning — and there are two specific times in my life where I've been publicly accused of things I'd never dream of doing — the accusations or gossip or what have you simply haven't stuck. And not only did they not stick, but they made the accuser look even worse." 

6. "What you dislike in yourself, you hate in others."

"We tend to be most intolerant and outspokenly critical towards the actions of people that are closest to your own actions which you dislike in yourself. Search your heart. More often than you would like to admit, you criticize that which you fear in yourself, or are privately fighting in your own character to conquer or resist," Riaan Engelbrecht wrote

7. "You'll feel better when you wear well-made, nice looking underwear."


"Wait, what? Underwear? Who cares about underwear?! Almost no one gets to see it. It's just something you have to put on under your clothing, right? It turns out this was a really good piece of advice," Sarah Karlson wrote

"Cheap, uncomfortable, or worn-out underwear sucks. It makes you feel unkempt, or gets to be one of those minor nagging annoyances that distracts you during the day. People used to refer to underwear as 'foundation garments,' and bad underwear makes for a bad foundation. This is also good advice at a more general level. 

A good foundation is important. Make sure you build a strong foundation in life, and be wary of things (and people) that look great on the surface but are not fundamentally sound.

Details matter, and investment in details matters, even if those details aren't visible to everyone (or to anyone other than yourself). It is worthwhile to attend to details, and to put in a little extra effort." 

8. “Be frustrated, but don’t stay frustrated.”

"This was one of her biggest lessons to me, and is something that propels me forward every day. If you let your frustrations get the best of you, you are letting them take over your successes and keep you from conquering your failures. Getting originally frustrated is okay," Mehak Vohra wrote. "Everyone gets issues that anger and upset them. But it's about what you are going to do after the original frustration that's going to determine you success." 

9. "Everything looks better in the morning."

"I have trouble sleeping some nights because I'm a major worrier, but my mom told me this when I moved out and it has helped me SO much. I don't know what it is about getting into bed that just makes all your worries and fears seem HUGE. I remind myself to wait until morning to worry about it, and the challenges always seem much easier to take on," Kate Scott wrote. "Thanks for that one, Mom." 

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