9 Pieces Of Advice For People Dating Someone Who Struggles With Depression

"As a partner, you can help someone have a happy life, but that is very different from being able to cure someone's depression."

It can be extremely difficult to date someone who struggles with depression. It's hard to watch someone you care about suffer and know you can't do anything to "fix" it. Depression can lead to a wide range of behavioral and physical symptoms such as changes in mood. sleep, energy levels, self-esteem, appetite, and more. Treatment often involves medication, talk therapy, or a combination of the two, but many will still struggle with the mental health disorder. 

If you've ever loved someone with a mental health issue, you know they are so much more than their disorder. Yet, their issues can come to define a lot about your relationship. In order to truly commit to someone who struggles with depression, you should fully accept this part of them and not think of it as something you can cure. Educate yourself on how to be a supportive partner to someone with depression


Recently, a thread on Reddit touched on this topic. One user asked, "People who are dating someone with depression, what is the biggest piece of advice you can give?" The thread received more than 500 responses from both people who had dated someone with depression and other mental illnesses as well as people who struggle with them themselves. 

We collected some of the best pieces advice and listed them below. 

1. Understand that there is a difference between feeling sad and having depression.

2. Pay attention to differences in their behavior.

3. Be supportive and patient.

4. Don't blame yourself. It's not about you and it's not your fault.

5. Remeber that you are not a psychiatrist, therapist, or counselor. Encourage them to see a professional if they're not already.

6. Recognize that sometimes they will feel down and there won't be a specific reason why. Be there for them anyway.

7. Communicate.

8. Being a partner to someone with a mental illness means you need a support system too. Don't go through it alone. Seek help.

9. Remember that you can't cure their depression.

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If you or a loved one are in a crisis, you can reach out to the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK to speak with a skilled, trained counselor who is ready to listen to you.


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