5 Things To Never, EVER Ask Your Significant Other

Seriously, leave these alone.

Honesty is important in a relationship -- of that there can be no doubt. We have to trust the person we're with, and in return, we have to be trustworthy.

There are some questions, however, that might seem harmless to ask in an effort to build trust, but are actually huge insecurity bombs. Those questions should be avoided. Here are five of the biggest offenders. 


1. "How many people have you slept with?"

You might be curious about your partner's sexual history – especially in the beginning of a relationship – but it's a bad idea to ask them how many sexual partners they've had. 

You might ask them how many relationships, but as far as their "number" goes...

1) It's really none of your business. Mind you, any STIs or children they might have ARE your business, but the number of people they've slept with? That's got nothing to do with you. You are not the supreme arbiter of sexual morality in the universe.

2) You may not like the answer and, no matter how open-minded you think you are, if you don't like the answer, you're not going to be able to hide it. Moreover, you have no idea how they'll react to your "number," so... let it go. 

2. "Would you ever cheat on me?"

This is just insecurity talking. Nine times out of 10, insecurity shouldn't talk. Don't be an emotional black hole, devouring all affection by constantly demanding that your significant other feed your insecurities with constant reassurances like this. 

People are going to do what they're going to do. Don't ruin your relationship by expecting the worst.

3. "Am I better in bed than your ex?"

Again, this is insecurity asking questions that are just unattractive. There's nothing good that can come of questions like this. They're vicious circles that just go on and on. 

Stop thinking about your partner's exes and pay attention to your partner

4. "Were you looking at her/him?"

The answer is yes. Of course they were. Blame it on biology.

Your partner is probably not going to break up with you on the sidewalk to chase down an attractive stranger and if they do, congratulations, because you're better off. 

People look. It's okay.

It's just human nature. 

Embarrassing them with an amused look is better than a screaming match at brunch. Seriously, just have confidence in yourself and your relationship.

5. "Did you...?"

Just don't ask that.

We'll leave it at this: be a considerate lover. 

What questions do YOU hate in relationships? Let us know in the comments below.

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