Can You Force Love? These Two Friends Decided To Find Out With A 40-Day Dating Experiment.

Would you try this with your friend?

Meet graphic designers Jessica Walsh and Timothy Goodman. 

They are longtime friends with lots of things in common. But they also have lots of differences — especially when it comes to their dating approaches. 


Jessica is a romantic who likes long-term commitment, while Tim prefers the chase and more casual dating. 

So what would happen if these two very good friends with very different perspectives on love tried to date? Last year, Jessica and Tim decided to find out by conducting an experiment. 

Their website 40 Days of Dating describes their mission like this:

In an attempt to explore and hopefully overcome their fears and inadequacies, Tim and Jessica will go through the motions of a relationship for the next 40 days: the commitment, time, companionship, joys and frustrations. Can they help each other, or will they fall into their same habits? Will they damage their friendship? What if they fall in love?

Here are the rules:

1. We will see each other every day for 40 days
2. We will go on at least three dates a week
3. We will see a couples therapist once a week
4. We will go on one weekend trip together
5. We will fill out the daily questionnaire and document everything
6. We will not see, date, hookup, or have sex with anyone else

The two would have to endure the relationship for 40 days no matter what. Even if there were rats involved...

Or sumo wrestlers.

Buckets of slime and feathers were also part of the deal.

On day 33, Jessica and Tim vowed to hold hands for the entire day. Never letting go.

So what was the end result of forcing a 40-day relationship? Did the two friends fall in love? 

In a HuffPost Live follow-up video, Tim and Jessica admitted they had developed real feelings for each other during the experiment. Tim never expressed his love for Jessica at the time, however, and the two ended up breaking up. 

The pair told The Great Discontent that even though they didn't have a fairytale ending, they learned a lot from the experience. 

"The experiment (and therapy) helped me realize that I needed to take care of myself," Jessica told The Great Discontent. "When the experiment ended, I was in the best state of mind: I was relaxed, balanced, and carefree. Coincidentally, as soon as I stopped looking for the right person, I found the love of my life a few months later—we just got married two weeks ago!" 

After all is said and done, Jessica and Tim remain great friends, and are even turning their documentation of the project into a book called "40 Days of Dating: An Experiment," which will be released January 20, 2015. 

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