11 People To Text Instead of Your Ex

Before you hit "send," read this.

There are good and bad reasons to text an ex after a recent breakup. 

If you want to text them because you have a great post-relationship friendship, by all means, go ahead. However, if you're only reaching out because you feel lonely and vulnerable, you might want to take a step back and honestly evaluate your motives before pressing "send." 

Simply put: if you think you shouldn't text your ex, you're probably right. 

So before you send a text you might regret, instead consider contacting these 11 people for comfort and reassurance. 


1. Your mom.

You know what they say: "Save the drama for your mama." Mother really does know best, and she knows you shouldn't text your ex.  

2. Your dad.

He might be a bit less touchy-feely than your mom (or a little more), but he can still delight you with his vast repertoire of dad jokes that are sure to take your mind off what's-their-name. 

3. That friend who always gives you good advice you never take.

...And you're probably not going to take it this time either. But, hey, they'll feel good for trying to help you out (again), and you'll feel good about giving them an opportunity to talk to someone other than their own sense of superiority. 

4. Your siblings.

Whether they're just like you or the total opposite, they've known you long enough to talk you off the ex-text-ledge and well enough not to sugarcoat it. 

5. An old friend you haven't talked to in a while.

Maybe you lost touch when you got into a relationship, or maybe you just moved to different states a few years ago. As long as you're still on good terms, send them a funny text referencing a classic inside joke to pick up where you left off. 

6. Your grandparents.

OK, so you're probably going to have to call, rather than text, your grandparents. Besides, you know you don't talk to them enough anyway.  

7. Your BFF.

So what if you text them all day long anyway? Stopping you from making bad choices (well, the really bad ones anyway) is part of their job description. Plus, the best part of texting your best friend when you want to text your ex is that you don't have to pretend you have a normal, ulterior motive. Just type "SOS," and they'll know exactly what you need. 

8. That friend of a friend you met that one time at that thing.

This doesn't have to be (too) weird. Turning acquaintances into friends can be a fun part of adult life. If one of your friends recently introduced you to someone at a party, and you hit it off, reach out to them and see if they want to grab coffee some time. Depending on the person, this can be totally platonic or the beginning of the story you tell your grandchildren. 

9. A co-worker.

Catch up with an office "friend"... or the latest office gossip. Whatever works.

10. Your crush.

Out with the old source of grief and in with the new! If you don't already have a new crush IRL, message someone cute on a dating app. Because you never actually have to meet them, it's a low-risk interaction and welcome distraction.

11. Your ex.

If you're reading an article like this, you clearly want to talk to your ex. And you can, so long as you don't send it. Every time you're tempted to contact your ex, type everything you want to say in a Word document. Then, delete it. This can be a healthy and cathartic way to get out all your pent-up emotions without any negative consequences. 


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