100-Year-Olds Talk About What Makes A Friend A Friend

"Listen, and hear what's important."

Friends come in and out of our lives at different times and for different reasons — but what makes a lifelong, best friend? In a video for Allure, 100-year-olds talk about their own experiences in friendships and help define what they think makes a friend.

First, the women recall some of their past experiences with their friends, from organizing monthly dinners, to playing jacks and going to the movies. 

"If somebody new comes in, I immediately ask them to come to dinner. I just love people ... and I'm very curious to know what kind of lives they've had," one 100-year-old named Myrtle says. 

Two of the women then talk about their friendship and how they spend breakfast and dinner together every day. 

"One day, Ruth said to me, 'I don't like going down for breakfast alone. Could we have breakfast?'" The woman then describes Ruth's attributes: "She's amazing. She's not afraid to do anything. Like, go uptown at 100. And stop and get a cab in the middle of the street."

"We have to be understanding of each other," Ruth adds. "Listen, and hear what's important." 

One 107-year-old participant talks about making quality conversation with another person. 

"Some people do have more understanding, but it depends on who you're with. I can sit and talk to some people and they understand the way I feel. And I try to understand the way they feel. When I disagree with them, I discuss why. And then we talk about it. And then they can do what they want. I do what I want."

Finally, Myrtle sums things up by recalling a "beautiful" note she received from Ruth that said, "You know, sometimes you need somebody that you can just ... you don't have to be on guard. You just say what you feel like." 

Check out more from the participants in the full video below:



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