When a Male Co-Worker Told Her She Didn't Deserve Her Promotion, She Didn't Let It Slide

"At the end of the day, our male boss used your so-called superior male decision making skills to promote...me. Not you."

In a world where women only make 79 cents for every dollar a man earns, workplace sexism is still as rampant as ever.

Case in point: When Azita Rahman was promoted at her internship program, one of her male co-workers wasted no time in telling her he was more deserving of her fancy new gig, as she revealed in a post on social media.

"No offense but you really don't deserve that promotion," the male co-worker begins, in a screenshot of Rahman's post captured by The Independent. "I work my ass off and I bring her coffee every day... you're too emotional in your decision making." 



Though that would have been enough to enrage just about anyone, Rahman held her tongue and let her colleague dig himself deeper and deeper. "I'm not sexist but this position really is better suited for a man. Men are better with numbers, we make better accountants. You'd be a lot more successful as a secretary," he declared.

But contrary to his uninformed claims, research has shown women are no worse at math than men. According to the American Psychological Association, studies have suggested "men and women on the whole possess an equal aptitude for math and science," but questions of gender differences have persisted, "in part because men still outnumber women in science and math careers."

The APA report continues, "The research suggests that perceived or actual differences in cognitive performance between males and females are most likely the result of social and cultural factors."

As Refinery29 points out, these factors then have an impact, leading to girls believe they are worse at math and science, which often steers them away from those subjects. Need proof? The National Girls Collaborative Project reports women make up half of the total U.S. college-educated workforce, but only 29 percent of the science and engineering workforce.

And women face barriers at work in all fields. According to the Harvard Business Review, research shows that for women, the subtle gender bias that persists in organizations and in society disrupts the learning cycle at the heart of becoming a leader, meaning they are less likely to advance to more senior roles. The publication also notes the underrepresentation of women in top positions reinforces entrenched beliefs, and prompts and supports men's bids for leadership, thus maintaining the status quo.

Rahman's co-worker concluded his rant by encouraging her to not get offended because he was just being "honest," and she hit him back with a major truth bomb.

"See the difference between you and me in the workplace is that while you're spending all your time sitting on your white ass, texting me shit like this, acting like you're entitled to everything in the world and waiving off hard work just because you're a man - -I'm **surprise** actually working hard and getting 'your' promotions," she wrote. "You can say whatever you want but at the end of the day, our male boss used your so-called superior male decision making skills to promote...me. Not you. I'm sorry your genital and skin color didn't workout in your favor this time, Maybe next promotion! Until then, your analysis report is due tomorrow."

Rahman tells The Independent this co-worker has also made Islamophobic comments towards her (which is why she brought up his race) and says she's already reported him to HR.

Cover image via Shutterstock /  ImYanis.

Correction: A technical issue republished this article with a previous version. The story has been updated with the most recent version.


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